The Blessings Of Thorns
Sandra felt as low as
the heels of her shoes as she pushed against a November gust and the florist shop door. Her life had been easy, like
a spring breeze. Then in the fourth month of her second pregnancy, a minor automobile accident stole that from
her.
During this Thanksgiving
week she would have delivered a son. She grieved over her loss. As if that weren't enough, her husband's company
threatened a transfer. Then her sister, whose holiday visit she coveted, called saying she could not come for the
holiday.
Then Sandra's friend
infuriated her by suggesting her grief was a God-given path to maturity that would allow her to empathize with others
who suffer. She has no idea what I'm feeling, thought Sandra with a shudder. Thanksgiving? Thankful for what? She
wondered. For a careless driver whose truck was hardly scratched when he hit her? For an airbag that saved her life
but took that of her child?
"Good afternoon,
can I help you?" The shop clerk's approach startled her.
"I...I need an
arrangement," stammered Sandra. "For Thanksgiving?
Do you want beautiful
but ordinary, or would you like to challenge the day with a customer favorite I call the Thanksgiving Special?"
asked the shop clerk.
"I'm convinced
that flowers tell stories," she continued.
"Are you looking
for something that conveys 'gratitude' this Thanksgiving?"
"Not exactly!"
Sandra blurted out. "In the last five months, everything that could go wrong has gone wrong." Sandra regretted
her outburst, and was surprised when the shop clerk said, "I have the perfect arrangement for you."
Just then the shop
door's small bell rang, and the shop clerk said, "Hi, Barbara...let me get your order." She politely excused
herself and walked toward a small workroom, then quickly reappeared, carrying an arrangement of greenery, bows,
and long-stemmed thorny roses. Except the ends of the rose stems were neatly snipped: there were no flowers. Want
this in a box?" asked the clerk. Sandra watched for the customer's response. Was this a joke? Who would want
rose stems with no flowers! She waited for laughter, but neither woman laughed. "Yes, please," Barbara,
replied with an appreciative smile. "You'd think after three years of getting the 'special', I wouldn't be so moved
by its significance, but I can feel it right here, all over again," she said as she gently tapped her chest. And she
left with her order.
"Uh,"
stammered Sandra, "that lady just left with, uh...she just left with no flowers!"
"Right," said
the clerk, "I cut off the flowers. That's the 'Special'. I call it the Thanksgiving Thorns Bouquet."
"Oh, come on,
you can't tell me someone is willing to pay for that!" exclaimed Sandra.
"Barbara came
into the shop three years ago feeling much like you feel today," explained the clerk. "She thought she had
very little to be thankful for. She had lost her father to cancer, the family business was failing, her son was into drugs,
and she was facing major surgery. That same year I had lost my husband," continued the clerk, "and for the
first time in my life, had just spent the holidays alone. I had no children, no husband, no family nearby, and too great
a debt to allow any travel."
"So what did you
do?" asked Sandra.
"I learned to be
thankful for thorns," answered the clerk quietly. "I've always thanked God for the good things in my life and
never questioned the good things that happened to me, but when bad stuff hit, did I ever ask questions! It took time
for me to learn that dark times are important. I have always enjoyed the 'flowers' of life, but it took thorns to show me
the beauty of God's comfort. You know, the Bible says that God comforts us when we're afflicted, and from His consolation
we learn to comfort others."
Sandra sucked in her
breath as she thought about the very thing her friend had tried to tell her. "I guess the truth is I don't want comfort.
I've lost a baby and I'm angry with God."
Just then someone else
walked in the shop. "Hey, Phil!" shouted the clerk to the balding, rotund man. "My wife sent me in to get
our usual Thanksgiving Special....12 thorny, long-stemmed stems!" laughed Phil as the clerk handed him a tissue-wrapped
arrangement from the refrigerator.
"Those are for your
wife?" asked Sandra incredulously. "Do you mind me asking why she wants something that looks like
that?"
"No...I'm glad you
asked," Phil replied. "Four years ago my wife and I nearly divorced. After forty years, we were in a real mess,
but with the Lord's grace and guidance, we slogged through problem after problem. He rescued our marriage. Jenny here
(the clerk) told me she kept a vase of rose stems to remind her of what she learned from 'thorny' times, and that was good
enough for me. I took home some of those stems. My wife and I decided to label each one for a specific 'problem' and give
thanks for what that problem taught us."
As Phil paid the clerk, he
said to Sandra, "I highly recommend the Special!"
"I don't know if I can
be thankful for the thorns in my life." Sandra said. "It's all too...fresh."
"Well," the clerk
replied carefully, "my experience has shown me that thorns make roses more precious. We treasure God's providential
care more during trouble than at any other time. Remember, it was a crown of thorns that Jesus wore so we might know His
love. Don't resent the thorns."
Tears rolled down Sandra's
cheeks. For the first time since the accident, she loosened her grip on resentment. "I'll take those twelve long-stemmed
thorns, please," she managed to choke out.
"I hoped you would,"
said the clerk gently. "I'll have them ready in a minute."
"Thank you. What do I
owe you?" "Nothing. Nothing but a promise to allow God to heal your heart. The first year's arrangement is always
on me." The clerk smiled and handed a card to Sandra. "I'll attach this card to your arrangement, but maybe you
would like to read it first."
It read: "My God, I have
never thanked You for my thorns. I have thanked You a thousand times for my roses, but never once for my thorns. Teach me
the glory of the difficulties I bear; teach me the value of my thorns. Show me that I have drawn closer to You along the path
of pain. Show me that,through my tears, the colors of Your rainbow look much more brilliant."
Praise Him for your roses. Thank
Him for your thorns!
Author Unknown
Submitted by Ruby Dannhaus
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